I realized I behave differently depending on who I’m with… and I don’t know which version is real
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Honestly, this is more normal than it feels. Different sides of you come out in different spaces — that doesn’t make you fake, it makes you adaptable. The real “you” isn’t just one version… it’s all of them combined. What matters is whether you feel *comfortable* being those versions, not forced into them. Maybe the question isn’t “which one is real?” It’s “where do I feel most like myself?”
That’s actually very normal. You’re not being fake—you’re adapting. Everyone has different sides depending on context. The real “you” is the common thread across all of them, not just one version.
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