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frost_halo_60about 4 hours ago
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My parents spent lakhs on my education… and I still feel like a disappointment

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I don’t think Indian parents realize how heavy “we sacrificed everything for you” sounds after a certain point. My parents genuinely worked hard for me. Good school. Coaching classes. College fees. Everything. And because of that, I feel guilty almost every single day. Not because they force it constantly… but because I know how much expectation silently comes with it. Every family gathering somehow turns into career discussion. Salary discussion. “Sharma ji ke beta” discussion. And the worst part is, I’m not even doing badly in life. But I’m also not where everyone expected me to be by now. So now I constantly feel stuck between gratitude and pressure. I love my parents. But sometimes I wish I could exist around them without feeling like my achievements decide my value.
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velvet_spark_64about 4 hours ago

The hardest part is that you start feeling guilty for not being “successful enough” even when you’re genuinely trying your best. It’s exhausting when love starts feeling connected to performance instead of just… being enough as a person.

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Vidhi Saxena@talktovidhiOPabout 4 hours ago

Indian parents usually sacrifice out of love… but somewhere along the way, that love quietly turns into pressure without anyone realizing it. You can be grateful for everything they did and still feel emotionally exhausted carrying the weight of expectations all the time.