My Wife Hidden a Previous Nikah From Me for 4 Years. Now She's Pregnant, and My Whole Life Is Falling Apart.

Four years of marriage. A two-year-old daughter who is the light of my life. A unborn child seven months along. And yesterday, my entire world turned into a lie. I found photos proving that before marrying me, my wife had a previous Nikah. There was no rukhsati, but she never told me. Before I put a ring on her finger, I told her one thing: "I can handle anything except dishonesty." She looked me in the eye, agreed, and built our whole life on top of a secret she swore to keep to the grave. I am sitting in my car right now, hands shaking, looking at these photos. The betrayal is an aching, physical pain in my chest. How do you look at the person you sleep next to every night and realize you don't actually know who they are? Because of my own anger, I'm forced to think about the unthinkable—divorce. But the reality of Pakistani family law and our society makes me feel like I’m the one being punished for her lie: The Children: My daughter is only two, and my wife is carrying our second baby right now. Under the law, young children almost always stay with the mother (Hizanat). The thought of missing every bedtime and milestone because she was dishonest breaks my heart into pieces. Haq Mehr: I am being told that even if she deceived me and concealed her past, I might still be legally obligated to pay the full Haq Mehr. How is it fair that a life built on a suppressed secret costs me everything financially and emotionally? Legal Action: I have the photos of the Nikah, but not the official Nikah Nama. I feel so helpless trying to figure out if concealment (Tadlees) gives me any legal standing, or if the system will just treat me like another bitter husband. I haven't confronted her yet. Every time I look at her pregnant belly, I want to scream, cry, and protect her all at the same time. Has anyone ever survived discovering a massive lie after years of marriage? How do you choose between protecting your dignity and protecting your children's family?